Thursday, December 18, 2008

17 + Month's of Photo's you might have missed

not really in order


Yep that bump thats a Jareth

ahhh its finely over, mommy looks relieved

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Hi Mommys got me but I wanna look at the light

Im sleepie

Talkin to my daddy

ahhhhh cuddles

my mommy altered this shirt for me

Mommys fave picture



mommys bed warm





naping with mommy i wore her out



Me and MY WORLD Jareth Kuval Michael

If I had a world of my own everything would be non-sence

Christmas

The Best Picture in Exsistence -Amber Smith



Me and Auntie Glynnie


i'll race ya yeah i'll race ya bring it on bring it on




2007 he was baby harry potter 2008 he was superman

ahhh the start of a beautiful friendship

where it all began










Rockin out with Auntie

Im not sure Iike this

Olivia,Andrew,Jareth



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Big Boy Bed 2

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AHHH Isn't he sweet? and he's only fallen out of bed twice tonight lol :) could I ever love anything as much as I love him right now?

Big Boy Bed

Last Pic's of Jareth in the old crib we gave away

Last pictures in the old crib we gave it away

Last pictures in the old crib we gave it away

Last pictures in the old crib we gave it away

Last Pic's of Jareth in the play pen he now climb's out of



classic Jareth this is so classic Jareth



I know Jareth from what I read is a little young for the "big boy bed" yes I know this but Jareth has always been more advanced for his age especially Physically. As such I am in a pickle. Jareth had as I posted last week I think started climbing out of his play pen well the new Crib/Toddler bed/Day bed/head and foot board for a twin bed, Had to be given to him early as I think I mentioned I got rid of his old Crib that I had a love hate relationship with. I had a love hate relationship with this crib because His Father (who for legal reasons, we will call Fred) droped the old used family crib off on my fount porch one day while I was carrying with Jareth (who at the time we thought was going to be Amily) any way I had had a conversation with him not long before about how I did not have room for the crib yet and would let him know when I did Fred as always disregarded this and desided to drop it off anyway while I was out with Glynnis (my friend who's really more like a sister and whom I will offtend clame as my sister and have known since about mid-highschool) when I got home and found it I called Fred to find out what his problum was that he couldn't understand that I didn't have room for this ugly honkin thing (it really wasn't ugly i just was mad it really was a cute crib even if it was the baine of my exsistence) he said that his aunt was going to throw it out if he didn't bring it over that day (which knowing Fred may or may not be true more likely to be compleytly false though he has a bad habbit of lieing to get himself out of situations.) The Crib was soooo big that the first night I brought him home it was too big and scary to him I realized this after I put him down In the basinet and he fell strate to sleep. I folded the crib up and stored in for sevral month's after Jareth Got his Graco pack and play which came with an ajustment to make it in to a crib for smaller baby's that could not yet stand. However this was too short lived once he was able to stand and it looked as though he might fall out of it if I did not dis-continue it's use I used the play pen part of it for a long time as a crib so that Jareth would have a place to sleep and I didn't have to deal with the Crib that still plauges my worst nightmares. I tried to sell it once on myspace but could not find a local buyer that was willing to come pick it up and I had no way of getting that huge thing to the post office or a bvox big enough to ship it in to have it picked up by UPS this was very anoying so I gave up selling the darn thing as a bad job and when my mom passed away in april (God rest her soul she was bed ridden for soooo long and now she's walking with the Angels and Saints) we gave Jareth her room almost the same week because we knew this is what she would have wanted (she was very bonded and attached to Jareth being bed ridden she and he as she said her self were alot alike they were helpless and couldn't do much on their own and she took such Joy in simply giving him his morning bottle ... I was only able to breast feed Jareth for maybe 2 months before we both developed thrush him in his mouth and me in my nipples and as hard as I tried to keep going I was pumping less and less tell the wells ran dry .... I still have alot of guilt Issues over this.) I sat the crib up in my mom's old room which is now Jareth's room and it was ok and just before I stoped talking to Fred all together I had repetedly asked him to get me a new second Crib sheet to which he replyed and i'm parafrazeing here "I'm A bum loser I have no Job anymore and no money and Can't even pay the child support I agreed to pay Nancy for Amber" CLEARLY Fred is a dead beat Father (this is just about the nicest thing I can say about him other then he makes an awsome omlet. I would say at least he never physicily hurt me but alas i would be lieing) and I'm glad to be rid of him hopefuly for good. (Fred is currently being investigated for something really bad to say the least that make's me unable and unwilling to trust him with Jareth that I also am unwilling to go in to here... ever so don't ask. But if he gose to Jail i have every intention of going down to legal aid and having his rights striped I can only say that if you knew the situation any sane person would understand and cheer me on in this.) The not having a spare crib sheet was really one of my last straws with this crib cause Jareth whent through a period of time where at least once a week he woke up very poopie and messy and i had to wash the 1 crib sheet i had right away so that he would have a strech sheet in his crib the next night or I would have to strech a blanket over the martess in loo of a strech sheet. I finely got rid of the DOG AWFUL thing by putting it out side with a sign desplaying FREE CRIB!!! and said good bye to it as it was being hulled away .... it was a good crib it was not it's fault I had so many bad memorys and experences attached to it and I am sure that some baby will have a very good nights sleep in it as i know Jareth did many nights.
but anyway I had planed on keeping Jareth in his play pen as a bed tell Christmas Eve when I planed on building the new crib..... This did not pan out! he (as I had been dreaming he would for a week "the Force ... scratch that ...mothers intuition is stong with this one") learned to excape from his play pen making it imposable for me to get him down for bed that night. My dear friend Ashley God bless her heart (gosh I'm 22 I talk like I'm 80 some times WTF) helped me assemble the new crib which the new plan was to make it in to a toddler bed on Christmas Eve (note to anyone buying a crib .... easy assembily does not mean easy assembily anymore it means your going to be cussing grinding your teeth and need at least 1 other person but when it's all done you'll feel acomplished because even though the crib seems bigger then the old one it's also more beautieful and the wood color matches your glider rockers wood color so in the end it's worth it though making the crib is almost as hard as poping the kid out in the first place) as I was saying before my brain so rudely intrupted me that was 2 days ago that me and ashly were up tell 2:00am putting the crib together and Jareth straped in to his high chair conked out in the process. though the first night Jareth seemed to do well last night I found I was relieved too soon I found myself Camping out on the floor of Jareth's room He had mastered climbing out of the new crib even with the bar fully raised (for a 17 month old my kid is strooooong) I responded to this by turning the crib fully around so that the smaller frount side tword the wall (A trick I once saw Lorilie Gilmore pull out for Christopher on an episode of Gilmore Girls when in a panic he called Lorilie because his wife Sherrie had left him and Gigi to take off to Europe and resume her carrer and Christopher in over his head called Lorilie because he had no clue what he was supost to be doing and Gigi kept climbing out of her crib and he needed a shower desprately.) Though this may have worked for Gigi on Gilmore Girls oh no not for Jareth he found a way out he always finds a way i dread the day he can climb a baby gate. So to day with no other recorse I got the tools out a foot stool stuck Jareth in the play pen right next to me (he wouldn't climb out right infrount of mommy that wouldn't be his sneekie cookie way of things lol I love him) and took off the frount gard raised the platform bottom (this is where the footstool came in handy because your supost to have 2 people to do this HAHA I DEFI YOU PEOPLE AT STORK CRAFT!) and installed the frount bar on the thing making it a Toddler/Day Bed. Getting Jareth to sleep tonight was more fun then a barrel of monkeys because I had been tricked (lol not really) by him in to me and him taking a nap (my only for the day his second for the day) that lasted 3 hours the reson I say "tricked" is that Jareth will not keep eather his pants or his socks on and it is very cold so out of fear for him getting too cold (his legs were very cold to the touch) I grabbed him in the tent I mad for us out of blankets today (I really like blanket tents) and snuggled him in to a blanket with me .... he fussed for a while but in the end mommy was right it was warm and the warmth lulled us both to sleep (it dosen't help the for the first 6 months of his life Mommy was a major Co-Sleeper and it was very relaxing for both of us to cuddle up together again but as tempted as mommy is to go back to Co Sleeping 6 months is the limit if she ever wants to sleep alone before he is 12 years old) I figure tomarrow night will go better in his big boy bed as he will only be having ONE nap and Mommy normily reads him to sleep anyway so the getting up and down won't be such an issue (Jareth knows if he dosen't lay down while Mommy is reading Mommy closes the book gets up and leaves the room for about 15 min before we try it again and if Mommy has to get up and leave 3 times which hasn't happened once yet he's in big honking amounts of deep poopie.) I don't mind reading Jareth to sleep it's better then leaveing the TV on for him which would A)keep him awake, and B)screw up his REM sleep (REM-RAPID EYE MOVMENT or dream sleep which is actuly good for you and is needed for a good nights sleep leaveing the tv on effects REM sleep in many ways whats on tv when your sleeping can't become part of your dreams which is why i could never sleep with unsolved mysteries on ::shutters:: ekk creepy and because the light from the Tv sends a false messages to your brain about night and day sleep in the dark without flickering light is very important and condusive to a restful nights sleep though playing music without words is very good for sleep and for your brain because it stimulates the math portion of your brain due to the complex patterns in the music which are mathmatical equations to put it planely .... sorry child development major what's a girl to do who's obcessed with the complex workings of all the ways you can screw up a kid.... just do your best be with your kid and don't leave them with random people so you can go to the bar every night and i think your kid will proabily be relitively ok even if they do recive a few spanking in their life as long as you show restrant and don't spank them over there age or thretin them that your going to put them in a dark room and let the boogie man eat them (yes I know someone who has done this and it pissed me off and I had to intervine no option there just had to intervine) as a form of disiplan I think your kid will be ok.)

Any way I waisted my time bilding me and Jareth a Blanket tent today and have 2 papers due this week and 2 past due from last week so I better get to work.... the hoildays has got to be the worst months of the year for a single mom to be in school.... yeah this sucks

-Becca

Monday, December 15, 2008

To Jareth Love Mommy

Dear Jareth,

My dear child Your growing up to fast.... yesterday was the first time you smiled big held your arms wide open ran to mommy and grampa and said "Hug" It warmed my heart. I feel guilty alot of the time that you've been cheated out of a father and that I put you in the mess were in. I hope some day you understand that I am working to get us out of this mess I put us in and that even with out a "Dad" I have tried to provide you a support system full of love more Love than 2 people could ever give you alone. Its moments that you do things like blow kisses, smile, show affection, and like today when you run up to me for the first time and say "hug" that I'm sure everything will be ok that I am raiseing you to be a good man. When you kiss your cabage patch doll (even though you truely treat it like a boy the rest of the time) I know you will be a great Daddy some day I have that hope for you that you know how it feels to love something so much. I'll love you no matter what you do in your life I may get mad I may get disapointed but I vow that when I do these things to try my best to remember that first time that you said "HUG" and the first time you said "Mama" or blew Kisses I will try to remember the best in you as I hope you try to remember the best in me. I don't know what else to say to you little guy other then that I love you.

Love Mommy

The Candy Cain Story

I first heard this story in Church and I had to google "the candy cain story" to find it but though it was worth posting!

Refrance credit: http://www.reasonfortheseason.com/candycanestory.html

Legend has it that in the 18th Century somewhere in Europe any public display of Christianity was forbidden. No crosses or Bibles were allowed and the Christians were greatly oppressed. One old man, a candy maker by profession, was particularly distressed by this. He loved the Lord with all of his heart and couldn't stand to not share that love with the world. His heart especially went out to the children when Christmas drew near and no one was allowed to have a nativity scene (or crèche`) on display in their homes. He prayed for God to show him some way to make Christmas gifts for the children which would teach them the story of Christ.

The answer was the candy cane. The candy cane was in the shape of a shepherd"s staff to show them Jesus is our Shepherd and we are His flock. A sheep follows his own shepherd, knows his voice, and trusts him and knows that he is totally safe with him. The sheep will follow no other shepherd but their own. This is how we are to be with Jesus if we truly follow Him ( John 10:11; Psalm 23:1; Isaiah 40:11)

Upside down the candy cane was a "J", the first letter of Jesus' name. ( Luke 1:31) It was made of hard candy to remind us that Christ is the rock of our salvation. The wide red stripes on the candy cane were to represent the blood He shed on the cross for each one of us so that we can have eternal life through Him. He redeems us and cleanses us with His shed blood - the only thing that can wash away our sin. ( Luke 22:20) . The white stripes on a candy cane represented the virgin birth, sinless life and purity of our Lord. He is the only human being who ever lived on this earth who never committed a single sin. Even though He was tempted just as we are, He never sinned. ( I Peter: 22) The three narrow red stripes on candy canes symbolized that by His stripes, or wounds, we are healed and the Trinity - the Father, Son (Jesus) and Holy Spirit. Before the crucifixion Jesus was beaten; the crown of thorns was placed on His head; His back was raw from the whip. We are healed by those wounds. He bore our sorrows and by His stripes we are healed. ( Isaiah 53:3) The flavoring in the candy cane was peppermint, which is similar to hyssop. Hyssop is of the mint family and was used in Old Testament times for purification and sacrifice just as Jesus sacrificed His life for ours. ( John 19:29; Psalm 51:7)

The old candy maker told them that when we break our candy cane it reminds us that Jesus' body was broken for us. When we have communion it is a reminder of what He did for us. ( I Cor. 11:24) If we share our candy cane and give some to someone else in love because we want to, it represents that same love of Jesus because He is to be shared with one another in love. ( I John 4:7,8) God gave Himself to us when He sent Jesus. He loved us so much He wants us to spend eternal life with Him... which we can do if we accept Jesus in our hearts as Savior and Lord. ( John 1:12; John 3:3,16) Some people believe this story of the candy cane is just a legend. Others believe it really happened. We do not know for sure exactly how the candy cane was invented, but there is one thing for certain... it is an excellent picture of Christ and His love for you.

If It is in your heart pass it on....

a tribute to Candy Cain Coffee

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OH CANDY CAIN

Oh Candy Cain Oh Candy Cain
Oh How you flavor my Coffee
Your touch of mint gives me a thrill
Gives my cold nose a warm In hail
Oh Candy Cain Oh Candy Cain
Oh How you Flavor My Coffee!
With out you My Coffee black
My refrigerator milk it lacks
Oh Candy Cain Oh Candy Cain
Oh How You Flavor my Coffee

LoL I'm Wired on Candy Cain Coffee ... can you tell?

Saturday, December 13, 2008

Must Kill the toy cell phone must kill the toy cell phone NOW!!!!!

I wake up this morning it the tuned "Owe to Joy" now this isn't such a bad thing and it was 9:00am an hour past wake up time and yet .... I'm still tired .... and Owe to Joy dosen't stop .... Jareth whent to sleep curled up with his toy cell phone in his play pen (I got rid of his crib because he's getting a crib/toddlerbed/ day bed/twin-bed convertable for Christmas eve because I want him to sleep in it Christmas Eve and wake up christmas morning in it for the first time) For now though he is sleeping in his play pin and I was sleeping on the floor in his room (my room is thrashed right now because of lack of storage space and I'm weird about likeing being in the same room with Jareth I miss Co-Sleeping ALOT
(if done right it is perfectly safe so i don't want to hear the anti-co-sleeping mob with torches and pitch forkes I did it for the first 6 months of his life and guess what he's still alive ::shock:: and since I could only breat feed for about a month tell the well ran dry Co-sleeping was very bonding for me and Jareth I woke up to his face right next to me most mornings i slept better with him next to me and he woke up less throughout the night k?) but on to the point I was ready to kill that phone it's like an annoying alarm clock that gose off at 2:00am you just want to throw it at that time of morning..... so I was able to get Jareth fed while he was distracted with eating I got the phone away from him.... and now it's lost I don't remember what I did with it and I have the impression that I more then likely blocked out taking a hammer to it. lol I'll proabily find it in one peice but this morning in was fun to imagin smashing it to a pulp.

-Becca

Friday, December 12, 2008

A Good Day

To day was exceptionaly good Jareth was a little angle though he is typically a well behaved baby he was really exceptional today if I sad no he just stoped looked at me to make sure I was talking to him and stoped doing what ever it was and didn't come back to it for a very long time impressive for a 17 month old who wants to do everything and thinks that dresser drawers are a jungle gym. We spewnt all of the day together really there were few times I had to do something else other then be with him. these are the best days to me and I think most single mom's would agree the days when nothing keeps you from playing and just spending time with the baby are the best. i'll pay or it tomarrow though when I need to stay up late to get 2 pappers written for school but it was worth it I'll also pay for it tonight as i'm cleaning the living room. but I even managed to get a bath in whail jareth was contently zoned out on his favrate thing in the world (veggie tales silly songs today in was "the dance of the cucmber" DVD tomarrow who knows) I got a nap in with him and am very content even if i was a bit crankie after my nap from a killer head ack and my "girl time" arived a bit early then expected. It was a day where my focuswas soully Jareth and none of the little inconviences matter all that much after all.

Wednesday, December 10, 2008

Out Of The Play Pen and In To the World!

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Jareth has today learned to climb out of his play pin it won't be long before he's able to climb the baby gate now. and my feelings are mixed I'm proud of how strong he is and that he's acquired another new skill but I'm scared He'll be able to go anywhere next. I think about my mom and how she use to tell me about me kicking the slat out of my crib. She must have felt some of what I'm feeling right now proud that I was strong enough to and scared of what might happen if she took her eye off me even for a second now. I had already planed on switching Jareth to a toddler bed Christmas Eve. I hulled his old crib (which I hated) out to the curb a week or so ago put a "free crib" sign on it and was amazed at the mixed feelings I had when it was hulled away. A feeling of both "YES! THAT AWFUL THING IS GONE!" and "I laid him down in that the first night I brought him home *tear*" That first night that was over a year ago now I remember staying up half the night trying to figure out what was wrong why he couldn't or would not go to sleep I did everything but it was not tell i took him out of that huge crib and put him in his bassinet that he finely stopped crying closed his eyes and slept through the rest of the night. I understood instantly that he had been in my crowded and comforting womb for 9 (I still say it was 10) Months the bigness of the crib was scary to him and the bigness of the world I brought him in to makes me scared for him now but now it's different He doesn't have fear he grew in and out of that old crib and now out of his play pin and slowly he's growing in to the world around him I can only set back and watch as these changes take place far to fast for my comfort and hope that I'm equiped to help him transition shed a mommy tear for how big he's getting take a deep breath and face that he's not going to be this little forever and i'm gonna miss this.


Becca Reigh